What a wonderful example of respect.  I hope the effort continues, becomes an annual tradition, and spreads far and wide!
What a beautiful way to show the kids in your community that you care about them.


 Although respect is both a verb and a noun, I like to think of it as something I need to do.  And, as I believe that respect is acknowledging a person or thing’s value and accepting responsibility for helping maintain that value, then all the other attributes on the list below will result from or be a part of the respect that is given.  Think about it.  Manners like “please” and “thank you,” or holding the door for another, are small behaviors that promote civil behavior and make recipients feel valued.  All those common-sense wisdoms we’ve learned, like “a penny saved is a penny earned” and  “waste not, want not,” ultimately have to do with taking care of the value of a person or an item.  “Haste makes waste” acknowledges the need for patience.  And I fervently believe that love frequently follows respect, especially when a person is hard to love. When I discover what a person is good at, what they know that is useful or interesting, the good that they do that I never would have guessed, and then I invest in helping them maintain that value, love for that person almost always follows, often much to my surprise.


Students need respect, too!  The following list from Resetting Respect offers some suggestions for all those who work with students.

 unnamedWays to Respect Your Students

1) Listen carefully to each student.

2) Give appropriate and helpful feedback.

3) Be clear about and give frequent reminders of expectations.

4) Be clear, fair and consistent about consequences.

5) Don’t compare students to their siblings or make frequent references to them.

6) Recognize the attention spans and activity levels of your students and design the day accordingly.

7) Avoid demeaning or humiliating any student either in front of the class or in one-on-one situations.

8) Avoid using sarcasm with students. They frequently won’t understand it and will be further confused by it.

9) Allow students to participate in establishing classroom guidelines.

10) Find out what the students want to learn, and incorporate as much of that as possible into the curriculum.

11) Present new material a variety of ways that address different learning styles, providing an opportunity for all students to learn the new content.

12) Create an atmosphere that encourages the students to share their problems and concerns with you, and then strategize with the students to address those issues.


Note to Communities, School Administrations and School Boards: For students to feel respected and to understand that you consider their education valuable and important, as well as for them to be able to learn, schools themselves must be safe, clean, and in good repair.


In honor of the new school year, here is an excerpt from my book, Resetting Respect, that offers some things for students of all ages to think about.images

Ways to Respect Your Teacher

1) Try to give the teacher your full attention.

2) Follow the classroom rules and guidelines.

3) Use good manners with your teacher.

4) Do your best to get to school and class on time.

5) Let your teacher know if you don’t understand something or have a concern or a problem.

6) Keep your hands to yourself in the classroom and on the playground.

7) Try not to disturb the other students.

8) Do the assigned work to the best of your ability and on time.

9) Participate enthusiastically in classroom activities.

10) Offer to help the teacher when you notice something that needs doing.


Note to Parents: For a classroom to be successful, teachers need to respect the students and students need to respect the teachers. Therefore it is imperative that you model respect for teachers at home. If your kids think you don’t respect their teachers, it is likely they won’t respect their teachers either.


I must admit that while I was watching the first 2016 GOP debate live, I was focusing on my “sense of” the candidates, appraising their tactics, and musing on the intentions of the journalists.  It was when I recently watched the debate a second time (and I will admit I didn’t get to see it all), that I noticed some respect takeaways:

“We need to stop worrying about being loved and start worrying about being respected,” opined Governor Chris Christie about international relations.

“We need to give everybody the chance, treat everybody with respect and let them share in this great American dream that we have,” Governor John Kasich said, after having offered that while he does not agree with same-sex marriage, the court has ruled and he accepts it.

And Donald Trump.  He seems to confuse political correctness with respect and civility, and lowers the bar on behavior to the detriment of us all.  A more respectful Trump could help us know his policy positions rather than leaving us simply to respond, positively or negatively, to his style. A more respectful Trump might inspire the picture of a more presidential Trump rather than the bombastic incident-inciter he currently seems.  A more respectful Trump might help us decide whether his campaign is truly for real or just for his own amusement and gratification.



This post may be the first use of the word “respect” I’ve seen by a 2016 presidential candidate.  Let’s keep track — let me know if you’ve seen or see other instances of the word or respectful behavior, regardless of political affiliation!

Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-Vt.) said on Sunday that he does not always see eye to eye with Democratic presidential frontrunner Hillary Clinton.

“She and I disagree on many issues,” Sanders, himself a 2016 White House hopeful, said of Clinton on ABC’s “This Week.”

“I have a lot of respect for Hillary Clinton,” he told host Jonathan Karl. “She is somebody I’ve known for 25 years.”

“I’m not going to be engaging in personal attacks against her,” Sanders added.

“The American people want a serious debate about serious issues, not personal attacks.”




What a perfect depiction of my belief that everyone and everything have strengths and weaknesses.  Everyone and everything have value and deserve respect for that value. And that value, when discovered and nurtured, when respected, makes a better world for us all!


Darwin the dog stank at being a human service dog – he flunked out of the program. So he decided to save the Galapagos Islands instead. (s)

Through Dogs for Conservation, these energetic animals are sniffing out destructive species and helping researchers balance the ecology of the islands.


I just saw this wonderful post on Facebook.  This teacher was thoughtful enough to recognize, respect, and go the distance to take care of her students at a very stressful time.  I’m sure she not only helped them through the testing, but helped them realize why they should respect themselves, too!  Kudos!

Oh, have mercy. Look at what a reader’s child came home with in her folder today. You teachers: you handle this insane testing pressure by tapping into deeper and deeper wells of compassion, perseverance,creativity and grace. TEACHERS- WE SEE YOU!!
YES to this letter and YES to the teachers!!!
Parents: Read this to your babies!!

UPDATE!! We’ve just heard from the daughter of warrior teacher Mary Ginley, who wrote the first version of this amazing letter of encouragement back in 1999. THANK YOU TO MARY GINLEY AND TO ALL THE WONDERFUL TEACHERS WHO ARE SHARING THIS MESSAGE!! Love Wins!!

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What a fantastic story!  What a well done video.  And what really beautiful examples of respect in action!

Find out how this small San Francisco dog rescue finds the power to save over 800 dogs every year. You can help too! Show your love for rescue dogs by making…
“Dogs — they don’t see our flaws, they only see our possibility.  All they ask is that we look beyond their imperfections in return and we let them show us the immeasurable value they can add to our lives.”