What Are You Doing With Your Life?
When a teenager tries to break into her home, Joey Garcia asks him an unexpected question.
By Joey Garcia
I was at my laptop working on a poem when I realized that late afternoon had darkened into evening. I should probably close the windows in the front of the house, I thought.
The early evening light was dim but when I walked into the kitchen, I could clearly see the young man straddling the windowsill, breaking into my home.
He was a teenager, 17 or 18 years old. I felt strangely calm, probably because of my two decades as a high school teacher and life coach for teens. So it didn’t surprise me when a sincere question came into my mind:
“What are you doing with your life?”
He froze. I asked again, louder this time, my hands flapping emphatically: “What are you doing with your life?”
Watching me carefully for a moment, he seemed to ponder the question. Then he began to back out of the window.
I told him I would count to three and yell for help.
The young man ran. With shaky hands, I closed and locked my windows, careful not to touch the one he had entered, or the screen he had removed to break in. Evidence, I thought.
When the police officer arrived, he asked me what happened. When I explained, he asked if I knew the young man. “No” I said. The officer narrowed his eyes. “Then why did you ask, ‘What are you doing with your life?'”
I don’t remember what I told him. But the truth is, I feel responsible for all kids. Every child is my child. I believe that every adult is responsible for guiding teens to maturity. We must all help every teenager we meet to navigate a path into a rewarding life.
Looking back, I think I understand why the young man ran away. To be asked, “What are you doing with your life?” is to be acknowledged as if you matter, are loved and are valued.
In the end, I committed the bolder theft. He tried to break into my house, but I tried to break into his consciousness.
With a Perspective, I’m Joey Garcia.
Joey Garcia is an advice columnist in Sacramento